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Genesis 24:38 - Finding Isaac's righteous match?

Genesis 24:38 - בראשית 24:38

Hebrew Text

אִם־לֹא אֶל־בֵּית־אָבִי תֵּלֵךְ וְאֶל־מִשְׁפַּחְתִּי וְלָקַחְתָּ אִשָּׁה לִבְנִי׃

English Translation

but thou shalt go to my father’s house, and to my kindred, and take a wife for my son.

Transliteration

Im-lo el-beit-avi telech ve-el-mishpachti velakachta isha livni.

Hebrew Leining Text

אִם־לֹ֧א אֶל־בֵּית־אָבִ֛י תֵּלֵ֖ךְ וְאֶל־מִשְׁפַּחְתִּ֑י וְלָקַחְתָּ֥ אִשָּׁ֖ה לִבְנִֽי׃
אִם־לֹ֧א אֶל־בֵּית־אָבִ֛י תֵּלֵ֖ךְ וְאֶל־מִשְׁפַּחְתִּ֑י וְלָקַחְתָּ֥ אִשָּׁ֖ה לִבְנִֽי׃

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Parasha Commentary

Context of the Verse

This verse (Genesis 24:38) is part of the narrative where Avraham instructs his servant Eliezer to find a wife for Yitzchak (Isaac) from Avraham's family in Aram-Naharayim, rather than from the Canaanites among whom they lived. The verse reflects Avraham's insistence on maintaining the spiritual and moral integrity of his lineage by ensuring Yitzchak's wife comes from his own family.

Rashi's Commentary

Rashi (Rabbi Shlomo Yitzchaki) explains that Avraham's directive emphasizes the importance of marrying within the family to preserve the values of monotheism and righteousness. Rashi notes that Avraham specifically mentions "my father’s house" and "my kindred" to indicate that the prospective wife must come from a lineage that shares Avraham's commitment to Hashem, even if they were not yet fully observant like Avraham himself.

Rambam's Perspective

Rambam (Maimonides) in Hilchos Ishus (Laws of Marriage) underscores the importance of choosing a spouse from a family of good character. While Rambam does not comment directly on this verse, his broader teachings align with Avraham's concern for ensuring Yitzchak's wife would uphold the values of chessed (kindness) and yiras Shamayim (fear of Heaven), as demonstrated later by Rivka (Rebecca).

Midrashic Insights

  • The Midrash Bereishis Rabbah (59:9) elaborates that Avraham's insistence on avoiding the Canaanites was due to their corrupt moral character. The Midrash contrasts the Canaanites' behavior with the righteousness of Avraham's family, even if they were not yet fully aligned with his level of devotion.
  • Another Midrash (Pirkei D'Rabbi Eliezer 16) highlights that Avraham's instruction was divinely inspired, as Hashem ensured that Yitzchak's marriage would contribute to the fulfillment of the covenant.

Halachic Implications

The Shulchan Aruch (Even HaEzer 2) codifies the importance of marrying someone with proper lineage and character, reflecting Avraham's model. While the Torah later forbids certain familial marriages (e.g., arisos), Avraham's era permitted such unions to establish a pure lineage for the Jewish people.

Symbolism and Lessons

This verse teaches the enduring Jewish value of shidduchim (marriage matches) being rooted in shared spiritual goals. Avraham's directive underscores that marriage is not merely a personal matter but a foundational step in building a nation dedicated to Hashem's service.

📚 Talmud Citations

This verse is quoted in the Talmud.

📖 Yevamot 61b
The verse is referenced in a discussion about the importance of marrying within one's own family or tribe, illustrating the practice of endogamy as seen in the actions of Abraham's servant.

Frequently Asked Questions

Q: What is the context of Genesis 24:38?
A: Genesis 24:38 is part of the story where Abraham sends his servant Eliezer to find a wife for his son Isaac. Abraham instructs Eliezer to go to his family in Aram-Naharaim to find a suitable match, ensuring that Isaac marries within their own people and not the local Canaanites (Rashi on Genesis 24:3).
Q: Why did Abraham insist on finding a wife from his own family?
A: Abraham wanted to ensure that Isaac married someone who shared his values and faith in Hashem. Marrying within the family (his ancestral home) was a way to preserve monotheistic beliefs and avoid the idolatrous influences of the Canaanites (Ramban on Genesis 24:3, Talmud Yevamot 61a).
Q: What lesson can we learn from Abraham's instruction in this verse?
A: This verse teaches the importance of choosing a spouse who shares one’s spiritual values. Jewish tradition emphasizes the significance of 'building a faithful home' (Malachi 2:15) and ensuring that marriage strengthens one’s connection to Torah and mitzvot (Rashi, Talmud Pesachim 49a).
Q: How does this verse apply to Jewish matchmaking (shidduchim) today?
A: Just as Abraham sought a wife for Isaac from a family with shared beliefs, Jewish tradition today encourages finding a spouse who is committed to Torah values. The emphasis on shared religious and ethical foundations remains central in Orthodox Jewish matchmaking (Shulchan Aruch, Even HaEzer 1-2).
Q: Why did Abraham send his servant instead of going himself?
A: According to Midrash (Bereishit Rabbah 59:9), Abraham was bound by an oath not to leave the Land of Israel, so he sent his trusted servant Eliezer. Additionally, this shows the importance of delegating important tasks to reliable individuals when necessary (Rashi on Genesis 24:2).